Relationship questions to ask while dating
How do I do it with diplomacy so as not to alienate anyone either??? On a scale of 1-10, how much do you matter to yourself?Were you, like many people, taught to put others first, as if somehow that makes you more virtuous, loveable and just plain simply, a better person?The biggest joy has been watching men’s faces as they are truly listened to and appreciated for their willingness to share. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t go well at first.Almost everything we do naturally in listening to women will stop men from communicating. Mark Anthony Mc Cray helps people live on PURPOSE, achieve higher PERFORMANCE and experience true PROSPERITY.Control, abuse, addiction, emotional manipulation, my own co-dependent tendencies taking hold, selling my soul for love, financial irresponsibility, lying, expectation that I act as caregiver and primary emotional strength in the relationship and that I clean up the “messes,” literally or symbolically.
As Joe Jackson sagely says “You can’t get what you want, til you know what you want.” There are questions I didn’t ask myself in earlier years, both pre and post-marriage and conversations that I wish I had back then. My vivid imagination conjures up images of a dynamic, ever-growing “third entity” that combines the sum of the parts of the two of us.Of course this seasoned woman has had time and life enough to make these queries. At this point in my life, I have accumulated experiences and life lessons that I desire to share with a partner.I consider myself a wealthy woman since my friends and family are my treasures.I could chalk it up to fear of loss and re-creating the worst dynamics of my marriage, analysis paralysis about what I did that contributed to some of the dysfunction in that decade plus two, regret and shame about some of my choices, raising my son as a single parent, experimenting with relationship paradigm options, re-inventing myself, busy-ness with life stuff, focusing on career building and at times, truly enjoying being single and now that my son is an adult, making choices that primarily affect only me.I could second guess “If I knew then what I know now,” and beat myself up over all of the shoulda woulda coulda’s and believe me, I have.